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There’s a quiet kind of heartbreak that comes with losing friends we thought we’d have forever. Sometimes it happens in one big moment, or sometimes it is just a slow drift.
The unanswered texts, the birthdays forgotten, the updates we now hear through someone else.
I’ve felt that kind of loss myself. People I once thought would stand beside me at my wedding or rock my babies someday are now just names I scroll past on social media.
I don’t know what city they live in anymore, who they’re dating, or even how they’re doing. And they don’t know those things about me either. Someone who at one point could tell people every detail about my life are now strangers.
It’s a hard thing to accept. A friendship that you thought would be forever, but just doesn’t fit anymore.
I often find myself thinking of my old friendships, wondering if they ever think of me too.
Sometimes life pulls us in different directions, and sometimes, sadly, people just choose to walk away. It hurts, no matter what led to it all ending.
But here’s what I’ve learned as friendships have ended for me. The important ones always stay.
Maybe not always in the loud, everyday kind of way, but in the way that counts.
They show up when it matters. They’re the ones you can call after months of silence and pick right back up. They’re the ones who still know your heart, even after time and life have worn the edges of everything else.
As I’ve grown older, I’ve also come to believe something even more important. God places people in our lives for a reason, and sometimes only for a season. It doesn’t mean the friendship wasn’t real. It doesn’t mean the memories didn’t matter. It just means their chapter in our story came to a close. Maybe that was always part of His plan.
So if your heart’s hurting from friendships that didn’t last forever, know you’re not alone and know that the ones meant to stay, will. The rest? Thank them for the season, and keep walking forward with grace even when it’s not the easiest thing to do.