The Hancock-Henderson Quill, Inc.
By Elaine Slater Reese-Spring Green, Wi.
I used to ask my mother what she would like for Mother's Day.
Her answer was always the same, "I don't need any more stuff."
But, since we didn't live near her home, I usually sent more stuff. How could she not appreciate the items I spent hours selecting just for her?
Isn't it amazing how time can change our perspective?
Now that the years have changed so much in life, I am a little wiser. Aren't we all?
She's gone. I can't mail a beautiful card. Her new address is Heaven.
Mother's Day is now a time to reflect on so many years past. The fun times bring smiles to my face. The difficult and sad ones bring tears.
But, I have definitely learned one thing - too late. Perhaps a few of you will read this article, cut it out, and tape it to a kitchen cupboard door or a calendar.
Here's the perfect Mother's Day gift - or one for any day. It won't cost money.
You don't have to wrap it. And she doesn't have to find a place to put it or dust it.
Make a date for a "Special" couple of hours "with Mom"!
Tell her you now realize there are so many things that you don't know, that you two have never discussed. Come to this special meeting with Mom prepared with a list of questions that you would like answered.
What were you the most afraid of in your life? What was your greatest hope for me?
Tell me stories about the relationship you and dad had. What would you still like to do?
It's not as difficult as you think to come up with the questions you would like answered. And, I promise you, she will be amazed and so happy that you are interested and that you two are having this conversation together.
I waited too long and never will have so many of my questions answered. Make today count! Give her a call:before it's too late!
Just wanted to share a couple comments from others who have lost their moms and about sharing memories:
"I lost my mum when I was two. I'm married now with two little girls of my own! Just wish I had some memories or knew stuff about her! No one ever talked about her! I think of all the things she's missed and the relationship we should have shared and the girls growing up without their nanny!! I can never find a poem to best fit my situation! They all talk about memories, but I don't have any!! Would love to find one to frame!"
"My mom passed away 2 weeks, 5 hours and 13 minutes ago. I am so lost without her. She was so much more than a mother to me. She was my very best friend in the whole world; she was my rock! My foundation is gone and I'm crumbling.
"Everyone keeps telling me it gets easier, but so far it's only gotten worse.
"I miss her so very much. As she was taking her last breath, I was holding her hand and telling her that she was there when I took my first breath and I was there for her last.
"I love you to the moon and back Momma!!"
- Source: https://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/remembering-you-mom